This is the third part of an interview with The Right Path 4U President and Founder, Tamara Sillingle (you can see part one and part two if you haven’t already).
In this session Tamara talks about the Key 4U Retreat, Jack Canfield’s success principles and her own success formula to help you reach your goals.
You can watch the video here:
MIKE:
Okay, so we’ve heard how you’ve worked with other people…you’ve helped them out and right now our viewer’s probably wondering, how can you help them as a regular client or as someone taking part in this retreat in Florida?
TAMARA:
Well, again everyone is going to have their unique finger print and we know that everyone’s got their own story. They all come to light – we’ve gathered this tool bag of skills and experience, interests, things that we’re good at…
For the retreat, I coach you ahead of time – we have an introductory session. If you’re interested in doing assessments, some people are good with standardized assessments…some are not. If you’d like that to backup and support your results or to support what it is that you want to do – I offer that.
I’m also intuitive and if that’s part of what you’re interested in I’m happy to help with that as well, that’s a beautiful piece of what I do. Sometimes I can see the situation as a person’s talking about it and get an objective look at seeing how these pieces of the puzzle can come back together to form a beautiful picture.
You’re also going to be with other people that are interested in self-growth. There’s going to be brainstorming, there’s collaboration. It’s a chance to know yourself better and then once you find your direction, pin it down and figure out the steps…and then a question and answer session after and a workshop.
So you set off after your utopian trip that’s on a secluded island in Florida in an ocean-side tent. Then when you go home you have a map to go home with and you have some supports in place. We follow up, make sure that you’re on the path that you want to be on. When you need extra support or you need some advice, we can help you with that as well.
MIKE:
Okay, so someone who’s watching right now might be saying that this sounds great, I think that I could really benefit from this, but you know, I just don’t know if I have the time or I don’t know if I have enough money or I don’t know if I can travel away to Florida – I got a lot going on right now…
What are some of the common misconceptions that going away on a retreat – those are probably a few of them but, can you speak to that…what would you say to somebody who’s maybe thinking that right now?
TAMARA:
Well, number one – you are worth it. So in the priority of the things that you have to pay for in life – I understand, we all have our bills that we can’t let get ahead of us. But this isn’t selfish, it’s important for the people that you love, it’s important for yourself, it’s important for the world that you give the gifts that you have. We all have our signature strengths so leaning in and using those signature strengths so that you can get to the top of the mountain, it’s not a selfish thing. It helps so many people, yourself, those you interact with, your children and the world. So it’s important.
One thing I didn’t mention is that one of the things that I’ve done with the Right Path For You is it combines my past with what the Right Path’s about. I put it into a formula because of seeing so many people who have written themselves into the wrong book. And what I was doing with these clients was I could see that it was working…
So working with people’s strengths, plus their goals, plus their experience, plus planning, plus action, plus support, minus the obstacles that you’re dealing with … equals success.
Strengths + Goals + Experience + Planning + Action + Support – Obstacles
= Success
I know that’s a long equation, but it makes sense. You take those aspects of what it is that you’re going through in life and you can’t help but succeed. You need to participate, you do need to want to grow, but if you step on this ride – we’ve got your back.
MIKE:
Right, yeah. You know, investing in yourself is always smart. Whether it’s education…in some ways you’re kind of educating yourself on who you are and who you want to be. You can’t just think about the up-front cost, you have to think about what’s the cost of living the rest of your life being unfulfilled and being unhappy?
For anyone that feels like spending any sort of money for going away on a retreat and doing something like this as purely selfish…you have to think about all the significant people in your life that deal with you every day. They see you not living your ideal life or they see that you’re not happy or you’re definitely not in the right space. It kind of feels selfish for you to go off on a retreat like this but in the end, you stand to benefit so much yourself and the people around you at the same time.
You have to ask yourself, it’s not just the cost of doing this but what’s the cost of not doing it?
TAMARA:
Exactly. As you mentioned all those things, it brought me to a poem that Marianne Williamson had written about: “Who are you to shrink so that other people feel better”.
MIKE:
Right.
TAMARA:
Step forward, present your best. Don’t hold back because other people would be happier if you did so. Grow. That’s the purpose of us being here is to grow and you know it’s like a seed is planted and life is a constant quest to grow.
If you’re ready to continue growing and feel like you’re really living – then come. There’s no reason not to.
Get more details on the Key 4U Retreat taking place in Florida this November.
One lucky person can win free admission to the event by listening to the full interview and taking the steps that Tamara outlines near the end.
Photo Credit: Lucytoons (modified from original)